Family Feud or Dear Abby?

Dirty Laundry?

Published on February 16, 2012 By RedneckDude In Everything Else

OK, guys, I have a question. One which seems simple to me, but I would like some other viewpoints on it.

My son came to live with my current wife and I when he was 14. My wife can't have kids, so she was elated to have one in the home.

However, he didn't stay long. He wanted to go back to the people who raised him, my brother and his wife. I saw this coming. I knew he would be homesick for the only parents he ever knew. He threatened suicide and I didn't want to risk whether or not he was serious, so he went back to his "parents". He has always been somewhat of a problem child. This hurt my wife badly, she took it as rejection and now can't stand my son.

FFWD to present day. My son is now 17. He wants to come spend the weekend. My wife hates the idea and constantly reminds me of how much she detests him.

He is my son, after all, and she hurts me by acting the way she does.

My question:

Do I allow my wife to ban my child from coming here?

Is it right for her to say hurtful things to me about my son when I already know how she feels?

Comments (Page 3)

RedneckDude

on Feb 17, 2012

Vampothika

reply 25

i may be old fashioned, but the husband is the master of the home, not the wife.

LOL...yeah, my sister told me to grow a pair.

But I feel like there should be no master at home. When we wed, we became one. It is more of a partnership. I am a firm beleiver in equal rights.

k10w3

on Feb 17, 2012

Vampothika

reply 25

i may be old fashioned, but the husband is the master of the home, not the wife.

I don't think we need to hear about your kinky sex games, Kitty. No seriously, if anybody is the master in my home, it's me, but I'm a benevolent dictator, so it's not so ball crushing to my spouse.

RedneckDude

on Feb 17, 2012

IROKONESS

reply 27

Your blood will always be your blood. You cannot divorce them. You already have a one under your belt. You could wind up divorced again.

Try two. First wife is deceased. Second wife, mother of my kids, is in prison for murder.

I made it out alive!!! hehe

IROKONESS

on Feb 17, 2012

Well congrats on that. haha I am obviously out of my element. You have to do what's right for you Red. Then you can share it.

Don't give up on him though. Stay in contact as much as possible. What you want and can envision for you and your son, make it so.

All my best wishes to you and yours.

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